Romance for the Fujoshi

I have a lot of friends who are Fujoshis. WTF is Fujoshi? Well, fujoshis are homophile women who get aroused by imagining two (or more) hot/cute guys loving each other. You might wonder again… WHY?! Gay sex is quite scandalous enough, but having female fans on it is far more outrageous according to normal society.

I myself am a fujoshi, quite proud and open about it too unlike before. Here, I am to discuss one of the greatest challenge of a fujoshi.

Most men out there would consider it a total turn-off if they found out that a girl is into yaoi or BL. I was once even called sick and disgusting (I was deeply hurt by that statement) back then. What hope does a fujoshi have in obtaining a male partner? Plenty, but it will be a harsh challenge and possibly sad.

Let us first analyze why do we like Shounen-Ai or Yaoi in the first place. First of all, we fujoshis are mostly romanticists. The nearly perfect romance that girls have been dreaming can be found in this kind of stories. Rarely have I seen characters from these stories cheat on their love ones. Next, we are a sucker for forbidden love. Love that defies society. Let us not forget that we swoon for handsome and ideal men… and in Shounen-Ai / Yaoi, we have TWO or MORE of these type of men. Most men in yaoi are basically perfect. Also, there isn’t a female protagonist that women will feel insecure towards to. Over all, it’s the romance, lust, passion, and a few laughs in the stories that we fujoshis are after.

We, being romanticists, seek love in the real world as well. But will men seek these types of women who watch two guys kissing or having sex? They absolutely DO NOT. It would be a dream to have a boyfriend like Hinata from the japanese film "How to date an otaku girl".

I have enumerated possible chances that a fujoshi will be able to obtain a romantic relationship with a man.

    1.)    I’m not lying, I’m just not telling the truth.

There are people who just do not admit to their partners about this fandom for Boy’s Love. Some claim they just grow out of it. It’s a secret to keep and to hold.

    2.)    He cheers for both teams.

If he’s bisexual, he is most likely interested in you as well. Now, ain’t you a lucky fujoshi for snagging someone who loves you and can fulfill your fantasies.

    3.)    I’m the near perfect girl and he does not mind a few flaws here and there.

He still thinks it is weird that you like those atrocious things, but when you are drop dead gorgeous, smart, funny, and *insert ideal female qualities here*, who cares?!

    4.)    He loves me too much to let go.

Here is the most common situation. A guy falls in love with a girl, likewise. But after a few months he discovers that her girl is a fujoshi. He won’t mind, she has my fucking heart and I will accept her and her hobbies. But there’s always a catch! As long as she’s not into *insert more atrocious interests here*. If you probably advertised to him that you are a fujoshi before he started liking you then it’s an 80% fail.

5.)    It’s a mutual understanding.

Now this is the rarest of them all. Usually men and women like these end up only as friends, but if they do end up in a relationship… that’s good as well. He likes Yuri (Girl X Girl) as well, so he kinda understands why I like Yaoi. He’s an otaku like me.

It ain’t truly hopeless for us. We just have to work harder for it and choose our tactics. What we do ask for is understanding. We fujoshis can see past beyond the gross and weird. We see the wonderful love and romance through it all. Lastly, I just wish that fujoshis should stop having such high standards when it comes to men! We are so hung up by these perfect and ideal men we see in BL stories. >_<

And now, a funny clip from the film, "How to date an otaku girl".

Disclaimer: I may have used harsh words in describing yaoi and fujoshi (atrocious, gross, weird) but please be reminded that I intentionally described them as something as an outsider would but my sentiments regarding the matter are not like that. Thank you!